Fulfillment: Life On Purpose
Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse and counselor, worked in palliative care. She was responsible for taking care of terminally ill people who had less than 12 weeks to live. Bronnie documented the emotions her patients experienced as they faced the reality that they were going to die. She noted emotions of denial, fear, anger, remorse, and eventually acceptance. Additionally, as part of the counseling process, Bronnie inquired about her patients’ regrets. Of all the regrets reported, there were 5 that stood out:
1. I wish I pursued my dreams and aspiration, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings and speak my mind.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish I had let myself be happier.
Gallup did a 15 year study measuring and tracking people’s fulfillment of life. In the study they found that LESS THAN 33% of people reported having a fulfilled life. Sadly, for a good part of my life I fell in the 67% that found life less fulfilling. I lived my life in my thoughts and dreams. I lived in a place of “someday.” I told myself that someday I would spend my days doing what I love, teaching and motivating others. Someday I would have a 4 day work-week. Someday I would join forces with a world-class leadership/training organization. Someday I would design and deliver a leadership program to young adults in my hometown. Someday I would return to Italy with the love of my life. Someday I would spend more time with my family. Someday I would improve my relationship with others.
While I’ve never had the experience of facing death face-to-face, I had a profound experience in May 2016 when I was asked to complete a life-line and visualize my funeral. Since that time, I have had a sign on my door at work and home that reads “TODAY IS SOMEDAY!” These simple words are an important reminder to me that LIFE IS NOW! And on this day, and all the moments of it, this is the perfect time to live, to go after my heart’s desires, to create the legacy I want, to step out of my comfort zone, to connect with the people who matter most, to experience life in the most thrilling way. It is a reminder that I have only this moment. I am not guaranteed of the next. The future “someday” may not arrive. The time to act is NOW!
While there may be no destination for success, there is a destination for life. It is death. The path we create to get there is what gives meaning to our lives. Studies have shown that when people are engaged with their work, they report being happier, have more energy and enthusiasm. All this leads to better results. If we take this same approach with our lives, we will live happier lives, have more energy and enthusiasm which in turn will help us overcome life’s obstacles. When we engage with our lives by making decisions based upon our mission and goals, and honor our values and the person we aspire to be, our lives will be better!
On February 26, I am inviting you to attend Empowered Coaching, LLC’s workshop “Fulfillment: Life On Purpose”. This workshop provides participants with an opportunity to step away from the busyness of life, to pause, reflect, gain insight, and be empowered to take action towards living a purposeful, meaningful life.
Fulfillment starts with awareness. The characteristics of fulfillment are as vast as the number of people in the world. What does fulfillment or living on purpose mean to you? How does your personality, triggers, mindset, skills set play a role in creating a meaningful life? How do you stay conscious while making decisions in order to move towards the things you desire most? How do you avoid reactive old patterns and habits that prevent you from moving forward?
“Fulfillment: Life On Purpose” participants will create a visual image of what they want in their lives and where they are on the path of achieving it. They will gain insight of what is truly important to them; their values and priorities. Finally, they will link action so they can start making conscious choices to live on purpose. Participants will be able to answer the questions “Who are you?” and “What’s really important about the way you live?” It is my hope that after attending “Fulfillment: Life On Purpose”, participants will live a life without regret and be part of the 33% that report living a fulfilled life.
“Our greatest fear should not be failure, but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.” ~Francis Chan